Each Thanksgiving, our Nation pauses to give thanks for all of our blessings. For most Americans, this holiday is about enjoying friends and family, celebrating, and sharing a meal together. But beyond Thanksgiving, how do we express gratitude as military leaders? We are trained to be ruthless skeptics, hunting through our daily duties in search of poor planning, flawed logic, or lack of grammatical aptitude. Often, we fail to express gratitude and recognize how fortunate we are to serve our country. As we celebrate Thanksgiving, consider expanding your gratitude by actively seeking a positive perspective. Take a look at all of the positive things in your life and make gratitude a part of your daily routine.
First, adjust your perspective towards those who follow your leadership. As an officer, you probably aren’t the primary “doer” in your organization. You may develop the plan and write the order, but somewhere at the receiving end of this process is a Soldier loading his rucksack to accomplish the mission. Your collective success or failure is fought and won by great young Americans who turn your ideas into action, risking their lives to accomplish the mission. As a leader, always keep these subordinates in mind and remember how fortunate you are to serve in your current capacity.
Taking the time to put positive actions into perspective is a challenge in our time constrained environment. Maintaining an appreciation for the good in your organization requires you to actively “hunt the good stuff.” Instead of growing frustrated with a clueless Lieutenant, be empathetic, because at one point you also lacked the experience you garnered throughout your service. Instead, be grateful you have the opportunity to shape other leaders. One technique I use to maintain an optimistic perspective is by briefly capturing these positive moments in my daily notes. I review these snapshots at the end of the day and find that it often positively impacts my mood as I close out and head home.
As leaders, it is important to make positivity and gratitude part of our daily routine. I would bet you can remember how good you felt the last time a General or senior leader gave you a compliment. Believe it or not, your words can have the same impact on junior Soldiers. Consider making it a habit to tell people when they do a good job. Want to do more? Try sending one hand-written note per week, expressing gratitude to someone who has had a positive impact in your life. Over time, these simple methods will positively impact your overall attitude and worldview. More importantly, you will influence the culture of your organization and your investment in others will pay dividends on future formations.
These are just a few simple tips to increase gratitude in your daily life. I hope you enjoy your Thanksgiving, from wherever you may be celebrating. Today I’m grateful for my family and the life we have together. I’m grateful to have the privilege to serve my nation and be entrusted with leading and developing others. Finally, I’m grateful to be a part of this leadership discussion conversation with you. Enjoy your day, enjoy your families, and please consider reflecting on how you express gratitude as a military leader.
https://www.ted.com/talks/drew_dudley_everyday_leadership/up-next?language=en
Great short talk on understanding and owning impact.
Reading these comments reminded me of what I as a parent taught my son, and what I as a teacher taught my students. They also reminded what I had wished so many other parents would have taught there children! Many of these young soldiers were drafted without the skills of war and were thrown into the fray, learning the hard way. Some were lucky to find excellent leaders, others did not. On this Thanksgiving Day, I cherish the fact that we are free because off our military and what we stand for! I thank every soldier who has fought for our freedom! God Bless America and God Bless the USA ?? ❤️ ??